摘 要

北大女生自杀事件将“PUA”这一词重新拉回了人们的视线，在社会上激发了大量的讨论、剖白和控诉。自二十世纪四十年代以来，PUA已经从简单的搭讪技巧发展成为毒害两性关系的“泡学文化”。因此，PUA将性暗示隐藏在整套PUA技巧中，发展出一系列语词系统用以描述PUA语境下的两性交往。本论文采用批评话语的分析方法对语料进行分析，阐述权利、语言、心理以及意识形态之间的关系。此外，引入“符号学”，分析出PUA的本质在于运用话术建立起男性的“正面”形象和主导地位，用来将男性在约会中的主导地位合理化，男性采取操控、欺骗、打压等手段伤害女性，给女性贴上卑微的“标签”，以掩饰其性目的。其中，女性被视为短期关系的战利品和消遣品，沦为被男性“凝视”和“物化”的商品。有关PUA的文献多在于研究PUA的发展及PUA自身的危害，但对受害者感受的关注度却不够，并且社会上娱乐化及泛化PUA的现象让人们轻视它的伤害性和恶劣影响。本论文将站在女性的角度，揭露和批判PUA话语中所隐含的男性主宰和性别歧视价值观，探讨PUA对于女性的伤害，为女性发声，并希望人们能够以持续关注的态度对待PUA及PUA的受害者，为他们提供建议和保护。

关键词：PUA ; 性暗示；女性伤害；精神控制

Abstract

The suicide of the female students at Peking University has brought the word "PUA" back to people's attention and aroused a lot of discussion, accusations and accusations in the society. Since the 1940s, the definition of PUA has expanded from simple pick-up lines to the entire sexual interaction process, and gradually evolved into a kind of "hookup" that poisons relationships. As a result, PUA concealed sexual implication in a whole set of PUA techniques and developed a series of word systems to describe sexual intercourse in PUA context. This paper uses the critical language thinking method to explain the linguistic data, and expounds the relationship between rights,discourse,psychology and ideological difference. In addition, the "semiotics" is introduced to analyze that the essence of PUA is to construct the "positive" image and dominant position of men by using language, so as to rationalize the dominant power of men in dating. Men harm women by manipulating, cheating, suppressing and other means, and label women with humble "labels" to cover up their sexual purposes. Among them, women are regarded as trophies and pastimes of short-term relationships, and become commodities "stared at" and "objectified" by men. The literature on PUA mostly focuses on the development of PUA and the harm of PUA itself, but it pays little attention to the feelings of the victims, and the phenomenon of entertainment and generalization of PUA in the society makes people despise its harmful and bad influence. From the perspective of women, this paper will expose and criticize the male-dominated and sexist values implied in PUA discourse, discuss the harm of PUA to women, and speak for women. It is hoped that people can continue to pay attention to PUA and its victims, and provide them with advice and protection.

Keyword: PUA; sexual innuendo; women hurt; mind control

目 录

第1章 绪 论 1

1.1 PUA 1

1.1.1 PUA的概念 1

1.2 PUA的发展背景 1

第2章 性暗示 4

2.1 性暗示现象 4

2.2 PUA中的性暗示 4

2.3 PUA中关于“性”的批评话语分析 5

2.4 以性为目的的异化 8

第3章 女性伤害 10

3.1 亲密关系中的伤害 10

3.2 伤害的表现——身体成为“符号” 11

3.2.1 虚假自我 11

3.2.2 凝视与物化 12

3.2.3 语言和标签 13

3.3 女性伤害 14

3.3.1 女性伤害的成因 14

3.3.2 PUA对女性的控制 15

第4章 为女性发声 17

4.1 发声目的 17

4.2 发声方式 18

结论 27

参考文献 29

致谢 30

附录A 31

第1章 绪 论

最近一段时间，各大高校频频有关于PUA中的亲密关系、性和暴力的事件见诸报道。这些事件的曝光如同石如深湖。而北大女生自杀事件将“PUA”这一词重新拉回了人们的视线，在社会上激发了大量的讨论、控诉和剖白，人们渐渐发现所谓“亲密关系”并非仅仅意味着浪漫的温柔乡，仍有大片的黑暗隐藏在皎洁的月光背后。在我们感到悲伤和愤怒之余，也希望对如今社会上爱情里亲密关系的现状予以反思。如果没有这种反思，那么新悲剧将会取代旧的悲剧，并逐渐被公众所淡忘。

1.1 PUA