1. 研究目的与意义（文献综述包含参考文献）

The sexual relationship is the basic relationship between man and man, like thousands of years before changing the relationship between people and people, is from the change of relationship begins: "the husband have authority in the home, and his wife were demeaning, enslaved, she became the slave of his lust, into a simple tool the child." This change can be said to be global and structural. The equality partnership to a highly unequal man woman relationship of possession, driven by the homogeneous changes in human relationships, the people from slavery began to include men to women and men on men, membership hierarchy occupation, oppression relations, this is what we say the gender hierarchy (Beauvior's "first" and "secondary" is the common name) as the starting of patriarchy relationships rule hierarchy. Only these two kinds of gender and gender relations, is one of the most original and human society and always the most long interpersonal relationship. The changes in the relationship between the sexes profoundly affect the changes in other relationships, and the changes in interpersonal relations restrict the changes in the relationship between the two sexes. Therefore, the construction of a harmonious society, in any case, can not pass on the question of the relationship between the sexes.

2. 研究的基本内容、问题解决措施及方案

In this world, how should men and women, especially men and women who enter love marriage, deal with each other? There have been various answers in the texts of women's novels. In the early 1980s, Zhang Jie's "love can not forget" love idealism; with Lin Bai, Chen Ran flee from the male side of the "one man's war"; with Wang Anyi's lose-lose "gender war" Central Plains "); There are also the above rights and interests between men and women, money, sexual exchange relations and so on. Xu Kun's novel Love you for two weeks and a half and Spring's twenty-two nights demonstrate the instability of marriage and the impossibility of gender harmony from the transience of non-blood and close contacts . The exploration and the implicit answers of this kind of women in the female novel text make me feel disappointed and desolate. Shu Ting's poem "To the Oak," "Kapok," standing shoulder to shoulder with "The Oak Tree," stands with you as the image of the tree. It is the poetic image of the woman's yearning for a partnership of equality, complementarity and harmony . Shu Ting said in an essay that after the publication of this poem, many female students and female graduate students are looking for oaks (or "looking for men"). Once she spoke at a college, a gaunt, hung-looking female graduate asked her: "Where is the oak tree?" This question is exactly in keeping with the perplexed feeling of finding answers to both sexes in the female novel's text. Perhaps, for women, the answer may be: Do not be too busy searching for "oak trees"; first ask yourself not to climb the "trumpet flowers" on tall oak trees and show off "ovations" on oak trees. First, I asked myself to grow into an independent support "kapok" that stands side by side with the "oak tree" with standing "branches" and "red sesame flowers." This is what the Gender Institute says about the subjective growth of women. Women's self-worth and independent dignity of the guardian, that is, every woman's self-help, self-love, self-improvement, self-esteem. Perhaps by that time, a "stalwart" understanding of "kapok" and "oak tree" caring for "kapok" will be waiting for you by your side, and you will become a true "fengjia".